IT’S NOT

Psychiatry

Psychology

Counseling

Religion

 

IT’S NOT FOR THE

Weak

Helpless

Mentally ill

 

 

IT IS

The oldest method for changing your life!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Helping Ordinary People

Improve

Their Lives

 

SERVING

 

ü    Individuals

ü    Couples

ü    Families

 

ü    Adolescents

ü    Adults

ü    Seniors

 

ü    Organizations

ü    Groups

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 Here you will find services for normal people who are seeking to improve their lives. We all know that each of us face problems and challenges. At times, everyone needs to talk with a person who listens to us without judgment and seeks to understand us as an individual. Most people do not want or need the services of a psychiatrist, psychologist, or counselor. For some, seeing these professionals can be helpful, and for others seeing them can be a shameful and stigmatizing experience. Most people don’t want a “diagnosis” following them around or have the insurance companies or their job know about their private lives.

 

 What did people do before there were psychiatrists, psychologists, or counselors? Prior to the 1800s there were no psychiatrists, psychologists, or mental health counselors. If a person had a problem, they would go and see the Wise Person in their village or town. This was someone who had a great deal of insight into people and life. The more people came for help, the better the Wise Person became at helping. And, after a time, when a person came to the Wise Person with a problem, he or she heard, “Yes, yes! Don’t worry. I helped many people through this situation before, and I can help you.”

 

 At that time a Wise Person would not have had training in psychiatry, psychology, or counseling, but they did have a gift and could help people. There was no formal “diagnosis,” no insurance papers, and a person’s life remained private. Going to see the Wise Person meant you were responsible, smart, and capable! When a person had a problem their friends and family members supported the idea of going to see the Wise Person. Once a person went, they simply got the help they needed and happily moved on with life.

 

 Although I hold quite a bit of education and certifications, I have put all of these aside to become… well, let’s say “a wise guy.” Unlike the three stooges, I now help ordinary people improve their lives. Because I do not do this through psychiatry, psychology or counseling there is no diagnosis that will follow you around, no insurance papers, and the only person who will know your business is you!

 

 W hen people come to me they find that I simply use what was used before the formal arts of psychiatry, psychology and counseling came into being: common sense and spiritual techniques. But, when I say “spiritual” I do not mean any pie-in-the-sky ideology and I do not promote one religion over another. Spirituality goes beyond all religions, and it is the one thing that all religions hold in common. In fact, people who are dogmatically religious do not always do well with me. Mainly those who understand that their religion is their chosen way, and that other ways work for other people do well. I invite you to review my writings to get a better idea of  how I work with spirituality as a tool while respecting and working within each individual’s personal beliefs.

 

 I do not want any of the people I work with hanging around for a long time. Just like the Wise People of old, I say, “Let’s get this problem fixed and move on with life!” People have told me “I saw psychologist and counselors in the past. I did not connect with them, and I got more done with you in a short time then I got done with all of them in years!” Most people see me just a few times and they are done. Some people get what they need in a few more visits, and some will simply call on me from time to time as needed.

 

 

Am I right for you?

When I was putting together this website, some of the people I helped wanted to offer up some of their experiences with me for others to read. So, here is what some others have said about me.

 

“When my friend told me to see you, I thought it was going to be some hokey crap, but it wasn’t. It really helped! I’m glad I gave it a try.” (Ray: Age 26)

 

“I don’t like school and I don’t like being told what to do… But I guess there is lots of stuff in life you just got to do to get along with others… I like that he just tells me stuff up front and when I $#&* up he gets it.” (Sam: Age 14).

 

“Thank you so much for helping my father face death with peace, dignity, and respect, and for giving us our ‘dad’ back for the last part of his life.” (Chris: Age 43)

 

“You helped make sure the school district did not screw me over when my sons needed special education. Also, thanks for helping me see that my children can make it with their disabilities. I feel good about things today and hopeful about their futures.” (Nancy: Age 46)

 

“He has a great sense of humor….  is real knowledgeable… but he does not come across as a smarty pants and I never felt talked down to”  (Dave: Age 49 ).

 

“He’s funny. He started to call himself a Psuckologist because I told him that my life sucked. I saw him for a few months, and still call him from time to time. He sends me away when I really have nothing to talk about” (“Sheila: Age 36)

 

“When I lost my sight, I thought my life was over and I was worthless. But seeing you changed all of that. I feel I do more now, and with more enjoyment, then I ever did in the past.” (Pat:: Age 63)

 

“My answer to life was to drink. I get why I was drinking. Like you said, Life is better without a bottle in front of me, and I didn’t need a frontal lobotomy! You addressed my spiritual needs, and the drinking went away! I wish more people knew about you.” (Mich age 53)

 

Thank you so much for helping me with my son. As you know he is in special education and I was pulling out my hair on what to do with him. I felt I was losing him. Things are much better now, and he is more confident and doing well. You were right, he is not a bad kid, he just needed a solid relationship and to believe in himself [his abilities].”  (Dale age 41)

 

“We thought our relationship was over. And, it would have been if it wasn’t for the things you shared with us. I like how you did not take sides with either of us and didn’t pull any punches.” (Pam & Al)